Just 6 months ago, all of my dreams seemed to be coming true. Everything was wonderful. I was engaged to a wonderful man and I believed it was an eternal love, ordained by God. I taught high school English and coached. I had a beautiful home and was soon to move into a new home with my new husband. I had a sufficient income, although it was always a struggle on a private teacher’s salary.
I was really happy. I felt safe. I was excited about the future.
And then, within a matter of weeks…
… No fiancé.
… No job.
… No home.
… No income.
All of the fears that I have harbored for most of my life came to pass all in one fell swoop. I was devastated. Heartbreak, panic, and utter disbelief flooded my whole being with a power that was more frightening than anything I have ever experienced. Honestly, I tear up just thinking about it.
I did the only thing I knew to do… I sought God. Whenever the pain became too great I would scream, begging God to do something.
… and he never failed to do something.
He never fails to do something…
He performs the miraculous in my life. He calms the storm within. He provides just what I need the exact moment I need it. He has bound up my broken heart. He has filled the spaces occupied by loss and heartbreak and fear, with bounty and hope and joy and confidence.
And guess what? I didn’t crumbled. I didn’t break into a thousand pieces. I didn’t succumbed to depression and despair. I didn’t completely disintegrated. All the things I imagined would happen when I found myself in the midst of this Job-like experience didn’t happen.
I realize today that all of these things that happened, that I thought were going to destroy me, were really only answer to my prayers. In my prayers, I offered every part of my life to God… into His hands so that he could transform me… I prayed and prayed for God to mold and conform me into the woman he created me to be. And he answered my prayer through these losses, these trials.
I know this because I AM being transformed.
… by God’s UNFAILING LOVE!!
Today, my being is utterly consumed with hope instead of despair, with trust instead of panic, and with certainty instead of all the doubts that I knew only weeks ago.
Next weekend I will be moving in with my gracious daughter and son-in-law until I can get back on my feet and I am so very grateful for their love and generosity. Having to move in with my daughter at my age isn’t bothering me in the least. Six months ago, however, I would have been horrified at the thought of having nothing and needing to rely on others for my wellbeing. I’m grateful because God is replacing so much pride that I’ve harbored within me with humility, and His strength is replacing my weaknesses. And because I am ‘jobless’, I am in a position to pursue the gifts that God instilled in me and for which I am passionate … writing about His Glorious Name and revealing the beauty of His creation through photography.
Above all, God has dealt with me directly about my fear. His perfect love has cast that from me… I fear nothing. Honestly, I fear nothing. I lost my fear of death years ago because Heaven awaits me. And yet, I’ve struggled with fear over my time here on Earth. But, you know what? I’ve been through everything here. I’ve lived through the death of loved ones. I’ve been through the hell of addiction. I’ve been through emotional abuse, physical abuse, and sexual assault. I’ve lost the love of a man. I’ve lost my income and my home. And I’ve been through many, many other difficult experiences.
But, I HAVE GOD!!!
… And that’s ALL I need.
Not that long ago I would have been mortified to reveal my circumstances and my ‘failures’ to close friends, let alone to the world, but what matters is not if I’m ‘proud’ of my life or my experiences. NO! I am just SO very, very proud of my God … at what He has done and can do with this little life he gave to me.
It’s not about me!
It’s about God!!
Everything is and should be about God! However, it’s through my experiences and my hurts and my trials that God’s power and unfailing love can be revealed! And I want that!! I want to show him off to anyone who will listen!!
THIS IS MY GOD!!! Check him OUT!!
I no longer question God about the trials I face. I don’t question the trials any of us face. Yes, I need to be compassionate, empathetic and BE the loving arms of Christ to show His love to those who are going through the storms, like so many did for me. However, I don’t pity those in the midst of storms. I don’t pity myself. I know what can come and how God can transform and truly bring roses from ashes. Instead, I ‘consider it pure joy to face trials of many kinds’, as Paul reminded James.
God still has a lot of molding and transforming to do in me and I know that trials will come… but that’s cool! I’ll be all right!! I won’t crumble. I won’t succumb to despair. I won’t disintegrate. God has me under the shelter of his wings, in the arms of His son and in His heart forever… He truly is my eternal love!
So, I say in response:
… Adieu Despair
… Adieu Doubt
… Adieu Fear
Rest in Peace!
September 19, 2013 at 10:56 am
This is absolutely beautiful, Pam. And I’m very sorry you had to go through this…but God is amazing, isn’t he? Ye though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear NO evil. It’s a beautiful sentence, and so powerful! If God is for you, WHO can be against you? Let not your heart be troubled! These are all great sentences that people should memorize and treasure in their hearts. God is wonderful and he will always provide for his children. Glory hallelujah. Bless you, Sister. Bless you!
September 19, 2013 at 11:01 am
Indeed he is amazing, Tonya!! And I agree with your comment about memorizing and treasuring the words God has shared with us. They are the bandages that bind our hearts when they are shattered and when confusion reigns. Hurt heals quickly with HIs word!! Blessings to you, Tonya! =)
September 19, 2013 at 11:13 am
God bless you, Pam. Thanks for sharing. God has truly “turned your misery into your ministry.”
September 19, 2013 at 11:14 am
Thank you, Jeremy, for the encouragement! Blessings!
September 19, 2013 at 11:27 am
Thank you for sharing your testimony and being transparent. Praise God for the blessings he has given you and will keep giving you!
September 19, 2013 at 11:29 am
Amen! And thank you for commenting!
September 19, 2013 at 1:52 pm
Thanks, Pam… I too have been through all the things you mentioned. And I’m not afraid anymore. I feel strong and so, so calm. I know that he watches over me.
“I will fear no evil, for thou art with me.”
September 19, 2013 at 1:53 pm
Thanks Anna!! It’s a good place to be, right?? Blessings to you, too!!
September 29, 2013 at 8:13 pm
Thank you Pam, what you wrote encourage and touch me. Thank you for being an inspiration. God is so great !! And like you said, HE is ALL we need.